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Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).  This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.  As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.

"When I was 19, I dated this amazing guy. We attended different universities (about three hours apart), and he would make late night trips after class and work just to visit me for a few hours, then go back. He’d send me flowers for no reason at all, gifts just because he was thinking about me. He never pressured me for sex and we never slept together. It was a very pure and innocent love. I broke up with him because I thought he was 'too nice'. Everything with him was 'too easy'. I broke his heart, but all that mattered to me was that I wanted someone more fun and exciting! From ages 20-26, I had a steady string of bad boys: unattainable men who provided me a challenge. One was a mama’s boy who didn’t seem to know how to get from under his mom’s thumb, another was a serial cheater that I knew about but thought I could change him (boy, was I wrong!). A third was a gullible guy who listened to everything his friends told him and never to me, and the fourth was a serious emotional abuser. They were all great at first, but of course, they changed after a few months, much to my dismay. After the final one, I was tired of trying to change guys and mold them. From then on I decided, “No more projects!” I wanted a guy that was already together, that didn’t need to be trained and knew how to treat a woman like a queen. Needless to say, I got him… in that very same guy I dated back when I was 19. I thank God everyday that He put it my guy’s heart to give me another chance. And he hasn’t changed one bit."
 
The power, influence and charm of a Bad Boy can be envyable, but I'm hopeful that those "powers" can be channeled for good, and allow men to move past these modes of false masculinity in order to embrace how to truly treat a woman beyond short-term excitement and empty flattery designed to coerce them into bed.
 
Bottom line: It’s all about the Nice Guy. Nice Guys don't finish last... they just make sure the woman comes first.


Nice guy dating bad girl

Nice guy dating bad girl



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